Now, everyone knows the word ‘friendzone’ and it is the most feared word by men. They never like to be told by a girl they think is cute that they’re ‘my best friend’. That is the most feared phrase. Guys honestly hate it more than just a straight up ‘no’. Everyone makes jokes about the friendzone, and the picture that was selected for this post was chosen specifically for that purpose.
Now, I actually only really have one, true girl friend. We met several years ago now, and have been buddies ever since. We’ve bonded over anime and being big sisters and tons of other things. Anyway, I actually have more guy friends than girl friends. When Girl’s Day happens, there are only two people there. When I hang out with my guy friends, I’m usually the only girl there. That being said, I get a lot of attention and I’m used to it. But, it’s also easy for me to see when I’m getting too much attention from any of them. Thankfully, one of them is my brother, so I don’t have to worry about that. However, the other guys were not related to me and I saw how they looked at me on occasion. That, and my brother is terrible at keeping a secret.
He came to me to tell that a couple of our guy friends asked him ‘what my deal was’ and ‘if I was in a relationship’. Those usual questions. My brother told them the truth, and only encouraged one of them. However, it’s been a while since I’ve been propositioned by one of my guy friends. Until now. Last week, I got a text from a friend of mine, whom I’ve had a falling out with. He said we needed to hang out and I responded with, “Yeah, both my brother and I haven’t seen you.” I don’t really feel comfortable hanging out with him by myself anymore. So, he finally asked me if he could ask me a question (I know, I know). I said he could and he asked if I could envision the two of us dating in the future. I politely told him no. Because I’ve met another guy, who did not start off in the friendzone, and he’s got his future more on track, and he’s also bigger than me (my friend isn’t). It just didn’t feel right to me. I’m sorry if he liked me in that manner and I didn’t like him, but at least I came out and said it instead of ignoring his efforts and constantly calling him a ‘friend’.
Truth hurts, like jumping on a bicycle without a seat, but it needs to be said.
And on that note, it’s been real!